I have already addressed the need to be excited about weight loss, but now I am going to spend a lengthy post of what is probably more important: being into health for the long haul.
Ask yourself this question. When you “slip” into a habit or way of doing things related to your health, what do you slip into? A healthy lifestyle or unhealthy lifestyle? Or something perhaps in between? I think for most Americans, being unhealthy is certainly the default position, while being healthy is the anomaly. Wouldn’t it be great if our habit, our “default setting” was healthy. Imagine the reduction in health care costs and the increase in grandparents living long enough to see their grandchildren! I would think that making health a habit is ultimately the goal of any long-term health program.
Most of us are good at temporary adjustments. We can stick to eating whole grains for a month, but will we stick to them after losing some weight (and, without making it a habit, probably gaining the weight back). So how can we make temporary good health adjustments into long-term habits? Let me tell you from experience, it isn’t easy. I have been “into” health since 1993, read many books, visited thousands of websites, exercised many many hours, tested countless healthy recipes, and so forth, and while many healthy habits come much easier now than in 1993, it is still not easy to “default” to healthy.
However, I have to say that a lot of temporary health improvements have become habits for me, so it is possible. Very few people, myself included, are probably going to develop completely healthy habits, but I think you put yourself at a big advantage when you develop at least some. You will find that not only do you stay thinner longer, but when you do gain weight, you do so more slowly. Let me share some of my habits that I developed (and one I just can’t quite get!).
When I started drinking sugar free drinks in 1998, it was tough. Prior to this, I assumed that sugar-free drinks weren’t manly, so I drank full-calorie ones a lot. A friend of mine got into sugar-free drinks, and he would usually buy me what he bought, so I came to like them. I probably haven’t touched a sugared drink since 2001, at least not more than one every 6 months. That became a habit.
I also try to avoid snack foods, like potato chips, Doritos, and tortilla chips in the house. I have kind of made this a habit. I haven’t had potato chips in the house for years, nor Doritos. Regular tortilla chips are a weakness, and I had them in the house regularly this past winter, and I paid for it too. I ate too many of them. But nonetheless, I tend to keep these out of the house, and this has become a habit, the default, even if I do go through some extended periods when I have them in the house.
Another example is eating (non-fried) fish. In 2004 I read that DHA, a lipid in many fish, helps brain power. I was studying for the GRE at that time, and decided to eat a lot of white tuna and salmon, rich in DHA. This is a habit I have kept up. I have white tuna and grilled salmon regularly, supplying probably 3 times the fish oil I got in the years previous. I am not sure if I am smarter, but the taste is great.
I have been a little weaker on exercise, but over the last 15 years since I got into health, I have regularly exercised more often than not, but there were certainly embarrassing periods of inactivity sandwiched in there. Thus, I can say exercise is a habit, the default, even if barely. I think this becomes more of a habit as I get older, primarily because I like the way regular exercise makes me feel, which is good. My senior year in college I was so out-of-shape I got out of breath climbing one floor of dorm stairs. That made my body (and ego) feel pretty bad, and I don’t feel like getting that out-of-shape again.
One thing I haven’t been too good at is restricting calories. I would love to make it a habit to regularly consume fewer calories than I burn, until I get to my ideal weight, then I could break even, give or take a few hundred calories. I definitely tend toward overeating, and I have a good appetite, which is why I need Fitday. I also have to choose foods that are filling and not calorie dense, so I get the feeling like I am eating quite a bit, without the calories. Eating generally healthy foods is a habit for me, but eating less of all foods is still a struggle.
How did these become habits?
First, I have to care. If I didn’t care enough to get a little excited at first about health, I never could have even begun to start being healthy in a habitual way.
Second, I continually have to educate myself about what is healthy. If I wasn’t concerned about the effects of sugar, I never would have even considered lowering my intake of refined sugars. Education is extremely important, because approaching being healthy from every possible angle makes it much easier, and allows you to avoid stuff that might actually make you less healthy. If you think that “eating healthily” means rice cakes and water, I can tell you that you won’t (and shouldn’t) develop that as a habit.
Third, I have to branch out, be creative, and try new things. How could I develop a habit of liking low-sugar foods if I wasn’t even willing to try them? Convincing yourself you hate broccoli because you hated it when you were three is not a very good way of thinking, because preferences, and taste buds, change. If you want to make eating more vegetables a habit, you should try every vegetable possible, find them fresh, and find tasty and healthy ways to prepare them. Don’t boil some broccoli, declare it awful, and give up on vegetables.
Fourth, sometimes I just have to do what is right, because it is right. As an example, there are some days I go to church because I know I should. I would rather sleep in, or do something else, but I go to church out of habit, out of conviction. Some people criticize this, saying I should only go to church if I am excited about it, but are they seriously saying people should only do what is right when they happen to be excited about it?? Some days we are just going to have to do the right thing because we know we should, and this includes being healthy. Some days you may hate the thought of going to the gym, but you know you should, and you do. You feel better afterward, but that isn’t the point: you did it because it is right, even though it is tough. When you start acting on this fourth point is when you are starting to develop a healthy behavior as a habit, because you are training yourself to do the healthy thing by default.
Finally, I just have to keep trying. My weight has fluctuated too much over the years, but the funny thing is that I can really see a pattern of fighting weight, and it is getting much easier. In high school, my weight usually fluctuated by 20 pounds in the course of a year, every year. When I lost weight in college, I remained thin for a year, then fell off, then repeated that same pattern. My senior year (in 2000) I was 40 pounds overweight, but I lost it all by January of 2001. I kept it off until 2005, then I started gaining 30 pounds again slowly. I lost it by my wedding in September of 2007, and am going strong. My point? I am keeping the weight off longer and gaining it more slowly as time goes by. Each time I slip up, I eventually get back on track, and with each new attempt to get healthy, I am further training myself, further developing my short-term healthy actions into long(er) term habits.